039: How To Set Limits Without Power Struggles

We often think that it is the limits that children resist, when in fact it is the power and control we exert over them that they don’t welcome.   Your child has will power, just as do you.   When we over-control children, we end up with power struggles. In order to have limits without the power struggles, we need to empower our children and give them the sense of control. That is accomplished through a diplomatic approach, that sees the child as a separate individual with their own drive and wants.   Additional Episodes to revisit that help build foundation for limit setting: 036: Managing Expectations With Children 030: Meeting the Child’s Needs vs. Bending to Their Wishes 026: The Right Balance of Freedoms and Limits 025: Dynamics of Respect Between Parents & Children 020: How to Affirm and Validate Your Child       Need more ideas? Sign up here for the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting training.     Host: Julia Pappas, Psychologist & Parent Coach With questions and comments, please reach out on Instagram @theparentingpresence. Additional info is available at theparentingpresence.com