TNMU #204: Your Porn Problem Is Not So Secret, with Dr. Eddie Capparucci

Helping men overcome pornography and sex addiction is not a popular professional path, but it is a calling that our guest, Dr. Eddie Capparucci, takes very seriously. He specializes in treating what he calls problematic sexual behavior and has developed his own recovery model based on his personal and client experience. Join us as we navigate again into the waters or porn, for your sake and the sake of your son.   Stay up to date with us through our mail list (sign up here) or our FB page @NMUJourney.   Connect with Eddie: Latest Book: Why Men Struggle to Love https://www.innerchild-sexaddiction.com https://abundantlifecounselingga.com Blog: https://sexuallypuremen.com   Expanded Notes: Eddie’s sex addiction really began with porn at the age of 13 The source was an attachment disorder from feeling abandoned An encounter with Jesus in a church service led to a complete life change, including his career Seeing counseling patients that were like him resulted in a sole focus on porn and sex addiction recovery Addiction is simply a force within your life that has devastating and negative consequences in all areas of life Labeling sex addiction as addiction does not let the person off the hook because there is always a choice Pornography is sexual imagery in which people are being sexually objectified Whether images are actually porn or not is less relevant than the motive behind why the viewer is looking Porn users eventually reach a tolerance level, which leads to a need for something different, not just more Your secret is not secret; People pick up on your different behavior, even if they don’t know about the addiction Shame is the biggest deterrent in guys seeking help A key part of treatment is to be in a group and discover that you’re not alone The Inner Child model — the road to recovery goes through unresolved pain from childhood A negative narrative is part of the roadblock that keeps men addicted Core emotional triggers can activate the Inner Child and can signal an episode of acting out The road to recovery starts with admitting that you need help see a counselor certified in sex addiction work join a support community eliminate the source by locking down your devices trust God that you can overcome and be healthy As a father, be aware of your son’s behavior change, like isolation and school work changes first and foremost, monitor your son’s electronics; limit the time and access foster honest and open conversation about what they might see from their friends Resources:  Good Pictures Bad Pictures — Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr — A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds (for younger kids)