TNMU #203: How Your Stuff Affects Them

Your stuff as a husband and a father affects your wife and kids. It may be your bad habits or addictions or wounds from the past. Or it may be your turn around and the growth you experience. Either way, your stuff affects them, negatively or positively. Want to know what we mean and what to do about it? Join Mark and John for the discussion.   Stay up to date with us through our mail list (sign up here) or our FB page @NMUJourney.   Expanded Notes: What you ignore or avoid or work on for growth — negative or positive — affects your wife and kids Noticing what is feeding “your stuff” can be a great awareness moment Exercise your agency to avoid your negative triggers When it comes to deeper wounds, you will need to intentionally address it in order to heal Dealing with your stuff requires honesty and confronting lies you may have believed (for example, it’s just a little [fill in the blank]) Your kids will notice your character compromises Book Reference: Live Not By Lies by Rod Dreher The positive side is this: as you grow and deal with your stuff, you can help others in similar work Ways you can deal with your stuff? Ask your wife (or those close to you) what your stuff is You must start with awareness and in humility acknowledge you don’t know what you don’t know Once you know, then you can ask for help Ask God to help you build your team of folks who can help you Share your story, where you’ve been and where you are, and listen to the stories of others