196. Are You a Lazy Overachiever? With Naketa Ren Thigpen

When was the last time we allowed ourselves to imagine life bigger, more beautiful? Bigger doesn't mean more material. Bigger doesn't mean more Instagram followers. Bigger means as big, bold, and beautiful as you need to feel peace. Naketa Ren Thigpen is a relationship and balance advisor. This extraordinary woman teaches how to be intentional, pay attention to which emotions are pulling at you, and how you can release and expand. Her clients all honor the need to rest and recharge with room for relationship bliss just as much as the desire to dominate their respective fields. With 12 years of her business to celebrate, she maintains licenses and credentials ranging from social work and sexologist to psychotherapist. Before that, she worked in the emergency room, specifically in trauma, sexual assault response, and bereavement – the list goes on. To say she wears a lot of hats is an understatement.  At her core, she really wanted to understand why humans do human things. She needed clarity on why people are so prone to self-sabotage and pass on that sabotage through hurt to others. Now, the people Naketa wants to work with are those who recognize there's a gap between the good and bliss in their lives. Helping people leave imprints on people that come from wholeness, not generational curses, is her goal, as people can impact others with their trauma just as quickly as their love. She asks her clients where they can be lazy or intentionally selfish in their lives. "I mean being with yourself, looking at yourself in the mirror, the quiet that you're talking about, to feel all the mess, all the ugly, the tears, the awkward smiling that we do," says Naketa. "Drama lives in the body, but so does your joy, and if you're willing to get in touch, whatever awkward way that might be for you, for some it's a religion and some it's just a touch of sitting and hearing and feeling your heartbeat." Naketa says it is a gift to understand when and when not to be agile, when and when not to expand your boundary, and to hold more space for people who have earned it versus people who feel entitled to it.  Our parents and the people in our lives gave us their expectations; they poured their fears and projected on us. And at some point, all of that became ours. Their dream became either our bondage or it also became our dream. She says a part of you is entirely unkind to yourself because you're not the version you assumed. Learning to pick out what's ours and what is no longer serving you is powerful. Get rid of expired expectations. Divorce yourself from that. Mentioned in this episode: Selfish: Permission to Pause, Live, Love and Laugh Your Way to Joy, by Naketa Ren Thigpen https://www.amazon.com/Selfish-Permission-Pause-Live-Laugh/dp/1732983801/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1696279576&sr=8-1 Connect with Naketa Ren Thigpen: https://www.thigpro.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@asknaketa Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/asknaketa Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/asknaketa Other Game on Girlfriend episodes you might want to check out:  Are you sick of people-pleasing? Childhood Trauma Might Be The Source: https://sarahwalton.com/people-pleasing-trauma-response/ How do I Find Work-Life Balance? https://sarahwalton.com/find-work-life-balance/ Support Other Women, Change the Conversation https://sarahwalton.com/change-conversation/ You can check out our podcast interviews on YouTube, too! http://bit.ly/YouTubeSWalton   Thank you so much for listening. I'm so honored that you're here and would be so grateful if you could leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, and clicking "Write a review." Then, we'll get to inspire even more people! (If you’re not sure how to leave a review, you can watch this quick tutorial.)  #LazyOverachiever #IntentionallySelfish #RelationalWounds #NaketaRenThigpen #RelationshipAdvice #EntrepreneurLife #SalesCoach #IntuitiveBusinessCoach