When Your Ex Moves on Immediately with Jackie Pilossoph of Divorced Girl Smiling on The Divorce & Beyond Podcast #301

This week on Divorce & Beyond, Susan Guthrie, Esq. welcomes the Founder of Divorced Girl Smiling, Jackie Pilossoph, to talk about how to cope when your ex moves on in a hot minute.  In this episode, Susan and Jackie discuss what happens (and how to cope) when your ex moves on immediately following the divorce. It could be a shock or devastating, even if you were the one who initiated the divorce.  Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and editor-in-chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, celebrating its 10th anniversary, which comprises a website, podcast, mobile app, and a list of divorce professionals you can trust! A former broadcast news journalist and features reporter for the Chicago Tribune, Pilossoph was also the author of Love Essentially, her weekly column in the Chicago Tribune.  Topics and Golden Nuggets include: You’re still allowed to grieve, even if you wanted the divorce Everyone deals with and grieves divorce differently There are various reasons why an ex may move on quickly  You don’t give yourself a chance to heal or own your part of things by putting a bandaid over it with a new relationship The work you do following divorce helps you to determine what you do or don’t want in a relationship When your ex immediately moves in with the person they were having an affair with What do you need to be happy? Focus on you. **************************************** About this week's special guests: Jackie Pilossoph   Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and editor-in-chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, the media comprises a website, podcast, mobile app, and a list of divorce professionals you can trust! A former broadcast news journalist and features reporter for the Chicago Tribune, Pilossoph was also the author of Love Essentially, her weekly column in the Chicago Tribune. She was also a Huffington Post Divorce Blogger for five years. Pilossoph holds a Masters's degree in journalism from Boston University, and oh, she's divorced. Jackie’s website: http://divorcedgirlsmiling.comJackie’s books, including Divorced Girl, Smiling.  My Ex Moved On Immediately: 3 Seconds After We Got Separated In Fact: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/my-ex-moved-on-immediately-3-seconds-after-we-got-separated-in-fact/ My Ex Is Getting Married And It Hurts Like Hell. How To Handle It: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/my-ex-is-getting-married-and-it-hurts-like-hell-how-to-handle-it/ Jackie on Twitter: https://twitter.com/divorcedgirlJP  Jackie on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DivorcedGirlSmiling  Jackie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorced_girl_smiling/  Jackie on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-pilossoph-0851814/  ***************************************** THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:   SOBERLINK Thriving in divorce and beyond means not having to worry about the safety of your children when it comes to co-parenting. With alcohol abuse on the rise, many co-parents are turning to the system committed to providing proof, protection, and peace of mind. Soberlink’s alcohol monitoring system is the most convenient, reliable, and reasonable way for a parent to provide evidence that they are not drinking during parenting time. Soberlink’s real-time alerts, facial recognition, and tamper detection ensure the integrity of each test, so you can be confident your kids are with a sober parent. With Soberlink, judges rest assured that your child is safe, attorneys get court-admissible evidence of sobriety, and both parents have empowerment and peace of mind.  Pull back the curtain on the mysteries of parenting time and trust The Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to keep you informed and your kids safe and secure. To download the addiction and children resource page that I developed with Soberlink, visit www.Soberlink.com/Susan  ___________ THE DIVORCE PLANNER The #1 regret I hear from people who've gone through a divorce is that they didn't PREPARE in advance. Divorce has no do-over, so planning early in the process