How To Work Through 5 Relationship Challenges | TCM #92 (Part 1)

Bernhard and Laura talk about the five major areas and issues in the relationship space they have seen and experienced in their work over the years: 1. When one partner is growth orientated, and the other isn't - 2. The Search for the "perfect partner" and addiction to romance - 3. Lack of relationship skills and understanding of the different phases of relationships - 4. Trauma and self-defeating patterns and beliefs about relationships - 5. Twin flame & Divine Feminine/Masculine delusion and distortion Join our 3-hour Masterclass EVOLUTIONARY RELATIONSHIPS - How To Use Relationships As A Path Of Awakening October 6th, 2022, 12pm - 3pm PST The recording is available HERE. Show Notes Part 1: * When one partner isn't growth orientated, and the other is * Conflict avoidant couples vs. hostile, angry couples * Why people avoid relationships [unconsciously] * You can progress spiritually faster in a growth-oriented relationship * People tend to project on their partners are not really sincerely doing the work themselves * The fallacy of "it takes two to tango" and how it can be an avoidance strategy * The trap of trying to make your partner more like you * The futile search for the "perfect partner" and addiction to romance * Both anxious and avoidant types can be addicted to romance, and they often keep finding each other * Be clear about your values, what are your deal breakers, and what you bring to the table * Positive and negative shadow projection in relationships * There is also only ONE relationship that can fulfill you on all levels, and that is your relationship to God/the Divine * The necessity to understand the different archetypal phases in a relationship * Even the best relationships take work * The importance of conscious differentiation * No stage can be skipped - the experience a couple gains and the abilities they acquire in each stage provide the foundation for the stages that follow * The length of a relationship does not always equal quality * Partners don't grow at the same rate * This is not a smooth journey; it takes courage and fearlessness In Part 2 (only for members), we go deeper into: * Trauma and self-defeating patterns and beliefs about relationships * C-PTSD can make you more wired for protection than connection. It can also make you scared of people and fall for the wrong people * Shame makes us want to hide * Natural shyness vs. internalized shame * Many people are single and have become so disillusioned or disappointed in their attempts to [attract] find a partner that they have become hardened and tell themselves that they are "meant to be alone" or that there is "no one out there for me" * We all need relationships, not just romantic * Exercise to uncover your current beliefs about relationships * You have to work on getting to know yourself, your “I” * The necessity to get out of your comfort zone and face your fears * The Twin flame delusion and distortion * The red flags of the popular New Age Twin Flame concept * New Age mythology masking up unhealthy relationship and attachment patterns * The esoteric concept of the "polar couple" * Essence to essence vs. personality to personality * Anima/Animus projection and integration * Sri Aurobindo about the polar couple in relation to the ...