#587: Wanting People to Like You: How to Feel Confident in Any Social Situation

Podcast #587WANTING PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU: HOW TO FEEL CONFIDENT IN ANY SOCIAL SITUATIONYou want to be liked, and at the core, you know people like you, but you still wonder if you fit in and if people really like you. You've accepted that there will be people who don't like you, but you still wish that you could be cooler or feel like you belong more than you do, and you wonder why you still struggle with some of the same social insecurities that plagued your mind when you were in middle school. This episode on social confidence, and knowing how to belong and feel confident in any social situation is for you. In this episode, you're going to learn:* How to like yourself so that you will be unconcerned if people like you or not* Power phrases to remind yourself to stand in being who you are* Common mistakes you might be making that are keeping you from being as confident in any social situation, personal or professional ANNOUNCEMENT:Upcoming training: How to Stop Having Work Anxiety Sign up at www.trishblackwell.com/workanxietyCOACHING ON WANTING PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU:* "Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are." - Marilyn Monroe* "You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches." - Dita Von Teese* "Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner." - Lao Tzu We have a natural human inclination to seek validation.There are societal advantages to having "approval", but did you know that you can learn to give yourself approval too? People will like you if you like youMistakes: Not knowing yourselfNot spending time with yourselfNot reflecting on your unique giftingsOvergeneralizing yourselfMinimizing the miracle of your existenceDownplaying your strengthsTrying to portray a perfect imageYou have to know yourself to like yourselfMistakes:Staying too busyNot trying enough new thingsDoing what other people do instead of what you want to doPeople pleasingNot allowing free thinking or boredomYou have to be willing to be dislikedEmbrace rejection as part of life. Practice self-compassion.Celebrate emotional bravery.Decide to stand for and speak for something.See yourself as a leader instead of a follower. Mistakes:Trying to have everyone approve of youBeing afraid to offend anyone with your opinionsNot practicing asking for what you wantNot even knowing what you wantYou need a plan.A social confidence plan for work situations.An intentional interaction plan for social engagements.A practice of intentional emotion creation on a daily basis, and then when it matters mostA daily commitment of self-approval and self-validationA grounded practice of gratitude and praise to the Creator who designed you as you arePOWER PHRASES TO APPRECIATE YOURSELF:* God designed me magnificently, and He doesn't make mistakes.* I am who God designed me to be.* I was created on purpose and with purpose.* The world needs my unique personality, passions and potential.* I like being me and I like this life I'm creating.* I'm a world-changer and difference-maker: the way I show up today matters. REVIEW OF THE WEEK:TranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabSpeaker 1 0:03 You want to be liked, and other core, you know people like you. But you still wonder if you fit in how you fit in. And if people really like you, or they're just being nice to you, or they just have to like you or they just tolerate you. So you've accepted that there will be people in life who don't like you. But you still wish that you could be cooler or feel like you belong more than you do or wish that you could chan...