#176: LETTING GO OF CONTROL

LETTING GO OF CONTROL EPISODE #176 In this week’s episode of Confidence on the Go, we’re chatting about: * The two different roles “control” plays in our lives and how to leverage them both correctly * How letting go of control reminds us that we are human and grounds us to experience life more freely because we are able to realize that God’s got us * Five probing questions for you to ask yourself today to help walk you through constructively letting go of the control in your life that has been actually holding you back from free and joyful living Just a quick hello to all of my Keep the Faith listeners out there – thanks for being part of the community of contagious encouragement. SPONSORSHIP NOTE: I am proud to be an educator and consultant for Beautycounter, a B-Corp company on a mission to get safer products into the hands of everyone.   The lack of regulation in the personal care and cosmetic industry is astounding and it is harming our health in very serious ways. We need more voices to join up on our mission. If you want to put your passion to purpose while being generously compensated, then I would love to start a conversation with you about what it means to be involved in the #saferbeauty tribe that is Beautycounter. Join the movement of #betterbeauty and message me via email to make your voice really resonate for a cause. QUOTES ON LETTING GO: "Everybody thinks of changing humanity, but nobody thinks of changing himself." - Leo Tolstoy "No one can make you jealous, angry, vengeful, or greedy - unless you let him." Napoleon Hill "The control center of your life is your attitude." Anonymous POSITIVE CONTROL: POSITIVE THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL Your breath Your attitude Your beliefs Your self-talk Your gratitude Your perspective Your body language Your habits Your physical fitness Your mental fitness Your nutrition Your relationship with food Your relationship with your body Your relationship with yourself Your rest NEGATIVE CONTROL: There are some things we can control and some we can’t, learn which is which. When I am trying to be in control over things of which I truly can’t have control over, it is: OVERWHELMING and FEAR-BASED. It is LIMITING because it becomes all-consuming Additionally, other negative control attempts of mine are PERFORMANCE BASED (perfectionism) and FALSE SELF-GRANDIZATION (trying to play God and fix everyone), both of which are EXHAUSTING, UNSUSTAINABLE and LEAD TO NOWHERE.   They all lead to the same, unsettled, fearful and anxious feeling of insignificance. THINGS WE CAN’T CONTROL What others think of us What other people say What other people do or don’t do What actually happens circumstantially in life What happens in the world around us What happens in the future What has happened in the past How other people take care of themselves How other people put boundaries around toxic behaviors How we age How long we actually live How our body type expresses itself GOD’S GOT YOU: Letting go of control is a spiritual process and spiritual development. There is an art to surrender – and I don’t know about you, but I want to approach this life like it is a work of art, because it is. We are the craftsmanship of God. Letting go of control reminds us that we are human