#175: PERFECTIONISM BE GONE

PERFECTIONISM BE GONE EPISODE #175 In this week’s episode of Confidence on the Go, we’re chatting about: * How to use the The Recovering Perfectionist Manifesto to really start shedding the skin of perfectionism you hide from the world from your mind and thought patterns * The toxic and paralyzing side-effects of perfectionism and how to recognize if they are manifesting in your life * The difference between striving for confidence and excellence in being who you were created to be versus striving to be perfect to be who you think you are supposed to be Just a quick hello to all of my Keep the Faith listeners out there – thanks for being part of the community of contagious encouragement. SPONSORSHIP NOTE: I am proud to be an educator and consultant for Beautycounter, a B-Corp company on a mission to get safer products into the hands of everyone.   The lack of regulation in the personal care and cosmetic industry is astounding and it is harming our health in very serious ways. We need more voices to join up on our mission. If you want to put your passion to purpose while being generously compensated, then I would love to start a conversation with you about what it means to be involved in the #saferbeauty tribe that is Beautycounter. Join the movement of #betterbeauty and message me via email to make your voice really resonate for a cause. PERFECTIONISM BE GONE The purpose of this episode is to help you safely remove almost any stagnating problem and to restore yourself to your original condition – the condition of confidence in being who you were created and intended to be. “Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people. It will keep you cramped and insane your whole life, and it is the main obstacle between you and a shitty first draft. I think perfectionism is based on the obsessive belief that if you run carefully enough, hitting each stepping-stone just right, you won't have to die. The truth is that you will die anyway and that a lot of people who aren't even looking at their feet are going to do a whole lot better than you, and have a lot more fun while they're doing it.” ― Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life “Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it's often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.” ― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are “Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.” ― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are “Healthy striving is self-focused: "How can I improve?" Perfectionism is other-focused: "What will they think?” ― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are WHAT IS THE RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST MANIFESTO: I have put together a manifesto for you, and it's one that you can use to start your journey of recovery from the binding and limiting shackles of perfectionism. Here are the words of the manifesto: * I am a recovering perfectionist and will no longer use perfectionism as my crutch. * I have a strong sense of self and know that I am adaptable to whatever comes my way. * I refuse to expect myself to unrealistically "do it all...