17. Realigning Your Relationships With Lauren Zoeller

In today’s episode of The Coachable Podcast, Lauren Zoeller and I dig into what it takes to have a long lasting and fulfilling relationship. From healing and commitment to exes and intimacy, we figure out what it takes to have the relationship you desire.  Reclaim Your Voice [3:45] “Relationships are truly the greatest gift we’ve ever been given.” “Commit to yourself and reclaim your voice.” Reflect What You Desire [12:10] “Your single-ness or discontent in relationships is due to core wounds that haven’t been brought to light and healed.” “You are a reflection of what you are attracting into your dating life.” Take Responsibility For YOU [18:35] “The only thing we truly have control over is the way we feel at any given time.” “How someone responds to your truth is not your responsibility.” Our Ex Relationships [24:25] “If someone is bashing an ex, it’s showing that they haven’t taken responsibility for the relationship ending and healing that in themselves.” “It takes two people for a relationship to not work.” “The way you speak about an ex is a reflection of the healing work you’ve done.” Intimacy and Growth [27:00] “After 60-90 days, hormones can settle and you can get to really know someone on an intimate level before sharing the most sacred act of intimacy with someone.” “Don’t utilize sexuality as a weapon.” “The key to intimacy and deep alignment is vulnerability-being able to speak your voice and be transparent.” Love Language Connection [35:30] “Intimacy is so much more than the act of sex- deep intimacy can’t come without emotional, mental, and spiritual connection.” “Open communication and vulnerability creates intimacy.” Downfalls of Relationships [39:10] “The downfall of relationships is people not wanting to have that additional conversation within themselves and also with their partner to say, ‘this is how this makes me feel’.” “Another downfall: One person is willing to put in the work and the other person is shutting down.” Put In The Work For YOU [46:09] “There is a right or wrong when it comes to neglect of self-the minute you start to discount yourself and the experiences you’re feeling, you need to separate from the other person. You are NOT responsible for their feelings.” “Embody the example, don’t shame your partner into doing the work.” Commitment vs. Interest [54:03] “An aligned partnership has very little to do with what you’re doing and everything to do with who you’re being.” “When you’re interested in something, you’ll do it when it’s convenient. When you’re committed to something, you’ll do whatever it takes.” Stay in Connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecoachablepodcast/ Connect with Tori on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachtorigordon/ Guess what?! WE'RE ON YOUTUBE! https://www.youtube.com/c/ToriGordon If you love the show and want to show your support, please leave us a 5 star rating and review of the podcast on Apple Podcasts and Spotify! Go be coachable! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices