24. How Your Personality Pattern Impacts Your Relationships with Steven Kessler

I am so excited to announce a new masterclass happening on November 18th! The Coachable Masterclass on Identity is a FREE workshop to become a happier, more confident and more successful you in 90 minutes. You don't have to wait for the future to become the best version of yourself now. This masterclass will teach you how to bring the future to you. Register here for the Coachable Masterclass: Identity  Steven Kessler, psychotherapist and bestselling author of The 5 Personality Patterns, joins me on today’s episode! In Part 1, we are diving into the 5 different personality patterns. You are also invited to a Free Event called The Secret to Understanding People. To join Steven and learn more about these patterns and how they can help you to understand others, click here https://the5personalitypatterns.com/5pp-free-event-secret/ .  Patterns and People [11:43] ·    “Although you can’t put an end to your patterns, you can learn to identify your patterns and come back to present while giving ourselves what we need.” ·    “Not everybody in your life will respond to stress the same way you do.” The 5 Personality Patterns [30:00] ·    “The first one is the leaving pattern- leaving the body, the mind, the dimension. Taking yourself away from the body and the situation.” ·    “The second one is the merging pattern, or moving towards the other person. This is what an infant will do naturally.” ·    “The third is the enduring pattern- pulling energy in, into the ground beneath them, and hide. They let it all blow over.” ·    “The fourth is the aggressive pattern- pulling energy up and out to try and influence others. The aggressive pattern is about looking strong and threatening, coercing people into doing what they want to feel safe.” ·    “The fifth is rigid pattern. It’s like living a performance. You learn what is expected and act that way to keep love and approval.” Needs of the Patterns [43:58] ·    “The rigid pattern needs others to check in with them. Giving reassurance to people in the pattern.” ·    “People in a leaving pattern need others in their life to be present but to not invade your space. They need to be grounded and to hold warm energy that feels safe.” ·    “For a person in merging pattern, they need others to thank them for being treated with warmth and give reminders to treat themselves in the same way.” ·    “People in the enduring pattern need to practice movi Connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecoachablepodcast/ Connect with Tori on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachtorigordon/ Guess what?! WE'RE ON YOUTUBE! https://www.youtube.com/c/ToriGordon If you love the show and want to show your support, please leave us a 5 star rating and review of the podcast on Apple Podcasts and Spotify! Go be coachable Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices