334: When you want to control the outcome

In todays episode, Betsy talks about a big lesson she’s learning right now and how trying to control an outcome isn’t the way to peace! She shares how life is gracious enough to show her a new way and how she’s experiencing the disappointment in all of that. This episode is great if you haven’t been getting what you want and need a new prespective. transcript: Welcome to the Art of Living big podcast. My name is Betsy pake. I’m an author, a speaker, and a trainer of NLP and hypnotherapy. And I’m focused on helping you understand and design your life with the power of the subconscious. This podcast is designed to help you think differently about what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big Hello, everyone, welcome to The Art of Living big. I am, I’m doing the world’s shortest show today. And this show is simply to tell you that I am not feeling well I have been sick for I guess, since probably Saturday. And I just have a terrible cold, it’s nothing else I don’t have a fever, I don’t have body aches, but my head is just so stuffed up. And I’m just really miserable, you know, those colds that just seem to hang on. And here’s the thing that stinks so much about it is that this week, I was supposed to go to the beach, I was supposed to leave on Wednesday and go down to Florida. I haven’t seen my dad in two years. And I was gonna go down and see my dad and I got a hotel right on the ocean. So that I could just take in some of those waves and meditate and really just fill my cup. So this cold really derailed that I’m hoping maybe I can just move it back a week, maybe I can go next week. But I’ve been dealing with disappointment, you know, with like, second guessing myself feeling badly, because I had my dad save time on his calendar after all this time. And just really feeling sorry for myself in a lot of ways. And so I thought I would just come on and tell you what’s going on and then tell you sort of what I’m doing about all of that. I mean, besides the cold and like dealing with all the cold, which actually right now I sound so good. Like I have not had a voice in days. And so, you know, I’ve been dealing with like my health stuff, neti, potting, and you know, all of those things, which have been really helpful. But then also there’s this like, it is difficult to rest. Have you ever had that where you’re like, I have so much to do. And there’s so much that I want to do, like, I don’t want to be here laying in bed, and having to force myself to rest and to give myself space to heal has been really hard. And in fact, there was one day well, it was yesterday, were two nights ago at night, I was like, I’m gonna feel better tomorrow, I have all these things to do. And when I woke up, I felt worse. And I thought there is lessons and everything. And there is a lesson in this, in that there are times where we just have to rest. And even though there’s like a fear of whatever’s going to happen on the other side, like if we don’t do the thing, this is going to happen, you know, if we don’t stay busy, if we don’t achieve achieve, or whatever it is. There’s also something like maybe there is something that needs to be in the cosmic crock pot during rest, you know, sometimes I get my best ideas when I’m sick, or when I’m forced to not be busy, right? Because sometimes we can be busy just to be like spinning our wheels to like busy work making us feel like we’re getting som...