316: How Silence Can Help You Understand Yourself and Expand

Betsy looks back on the journey she’s been on over the past year and offers some reflections that may help you if you have a lot of things changing in your life, you don’t know which direction you are supposed to go, or you’re unhappy but too afraid to make a shift. * Connect with Betsy on IG @betsypake TRANSCRIPT Welcome to the Art of Living big podcast. My name is Betsy pake. I’m an author, a speaker, and a trainer of NLP and hypnotherapy. And I’m focused on helping you understand and design your life with the power of the subconscious. This podcast is designed to help you think differently about what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big. Hi, welcome to the show. Hi, everybody. Welcome to the Art of Living big if you’re new here, thanks for joining us. If you’ve been here for a while, hey, hi, guys. Alright, so today, I, this morning, I got up. And I found like the last week or so that I’m getting up and like checking my phone, which is something I don’t really like to do. But I think I’ve been checking just to see if my daughter texted me in the night or, you know, I don’t know, if there’s something I have to respond to, I’ve been looking. And this is the slippery slope into a lot of wasted time. And so, this morning, I thought I’m not going to do that I’m not, I’m not going to pick up my phone at all. I’m going to get my coffee and you know, cuddle with my dog. And I’m going to get out my journal. Now, if you’ve been here for a while you know that I journal, I use a an app called day one. And I’ve used it for like, I don’t know, 10 years, I mean a long, long time. And so I really like getting out my iPad, I have a keyboard and like just typing, like just saying how I’m feeling and then I ask, What do I need to know today. And then I try and get really quiet and just listen in to whatever kind of truth is deep down that I need to connect to. Now you might be thinking that see it’s an iPad, it’s the same thing as your phone, but like a bigger version. But for some reason, I don’t do the same things on it, like I am able to open up day one and just start typing and not check all the things even though those things are available. So it is it is a little bit different to me. So this morning, I was on there and and with day one, it’ll keep track, it’ll tell you like, last year today, this is what you wrote, like, it tells you kind of like Timehop kind of thing. And you can scroll on back and see. But one year ago today, there was some significant changes that I was making in my life. And you know, if you’ve ever heard me speak, you’ve heard me talk about this about how I was making some really big decisions about my life around this time. And you know, the trajectory, how I wanted to move forward and some decisions in my marriage and in lots of things that were happening. You know, I mentioned this, I feel like I mentioned this every show, but you know, my dog had died last year in April. And it shifted the trajectory of things for me in a really profound way, which may seem kind of odd. But I do think that like, anytime our schedule is completely shaken up, it gives us a chance to reevaluate everything. And I was living in a place where I was getting a lot of my I don’t know, like my, my affection from my dog. And just like partnership, we were together all day, and we would walk and we would, you know, hang out at night, and she would journal with me, like all of those things. So when she left, it was very disorienting. And really over the past year has sent me on quite a journey that I don’t think I ever would have gotten gone on if she had stayed alive. So I saw last year’s entry and I was like,...