305: How to Show Up Authentically Both as a Coach and While Being Coached

Betsy discusses coaching both from the perspective of wanting to be coached and from the perspective of being a coach. She highlights the importance of showing up authentically as yourself and provides some things you should consider before entering into a coaching relationship, both as a coach and as someone who is looking for a coach. * Connect with Betsy on IG @betsypake TRANSCRIPT Welcome to the Art of Living big podcast. My name is Betsy pake. I’m an author, a speaker, and a trainer of NLP and hypnotherapy. And I’m focused on helping you understand and design your life with the power of the subconscious. This podcast is designed to help you think differently about what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big. Hello fellow adventurers. Hi, everyone. Welcome to today’s show. So today’s show, I’m going to talk it’s funny to me, because I was thinking, as I was like making a list of some things that I wanted to share, and I was like, I’ve never done a whole podcast just on, like coaching, what that means from a perspective of me wanting to be coached, and what it might mean from a perspective of being a coach. And it’s funny to me, because I’ve had this podcast like we’re over 300 episodes now, like 300 episodes, I’m a coach, and I trained coaches, and I don’t know if I’ve ever done like a like whole podcast just on what that is, and what I think that means. And so I thought today, it might be fun to kind of dive into that a little bit. I’ve got some stories to tell, and some things that I think might help shift you whether you have wanted to be coached, whether you’re currently being coached, or whether you want to become a coach, I’ve got some thoughts about all of it. And it might be a little bit different than maybe what you’ve heard people talk about in terms of coaching before, you know, one of the things that I think about coaching, that’s so interesting is that once you once you become a coach, it’s almost like this, I don’t know like this, it’s like a double edged sword, right? Because you get this, it’s like a veil is taken off from your eyes, and you see the world in a totally different way. And sometimes, that can really be difficult. So I want to talk about what I mean. And I want to share some of this because I think this can really help you in terms of maybe right now you’re not thinking about getting a coach, but maybe there’s a shift that needs to happen. And what I have to say might really help you. So here’s what I mean by the double edged sword. I was talking inside the alchemy Institute the other day, that once you have an awareness, right, you can’t ever unsee that awareness. And inside the alchemy Institute I in there I teach. I teach NLP neuro linguistic programming as a modality to be a coach. And in that we ask a lot of questions. So questioning is really like one of the foundations of it. And once we get used to asking those questions, we can’t, it’s almost impossible to not ask ourselves those same questions. So I think that one of the beautiful things about becoming a coach is that you start to see the whole world and yourself totally different. And it gives you this opportunity to actually, like reflect in a whole lot more. I was telling the people in the institute that I do this work on myself, self coaching, every day, I do NLP on myself every single day. Sometimes, like in the middle of a conversation with my husband, I’ll be like, Oh my god, I just noticed a block or a limiting thought, and I want to go in and heal it right now. Sometimes it’s just at night when I run through my day. So I think that becoming a coach gives you this view of the world th...