302: Be Deliberate, Reset, and be Present

Betsy shares some thoughts and experiences that have recently shifted her mindset. The stories and realizations that she shares will help you be more intentional, overcome imposter syndrome, and be more present in the moment. >>> Connect with Betsy on IG @betsypake TRANSCRIPT Welcome to the Art of Living big podcast. My name is Betsy pake. I’m an author, a speaker, and a trainer of NLP and hypnotherapy. And I’m focused on helping you understand and design your life with the power of the subconscious. This podcast is designed to help you think differently about what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big. Hello, hello. Hi fellow adventurers, welcome to today’s show. I’m so excited. You’re here. If you’re new here, welcome. Welcome. I have so many things to tell you. Part of me was like, Is this another coffee talk episode, but I feel like I have a purpose and a point to all of my stories, they’re all headed in the same direction. So today, I want to talk a little bit about being present. Now, before you just turn this off. Like, oh, my gosh, there’s a million things about being present, I have a couple of stories and some things that kind of shifted the way that I have been thinking or looking at things. And because I believe we’re also connected, maybe some of my shifts will help you too. So over the past month, I have been really focused on being present, but not out of, not out of like a, I really want to be present in my life. Not that it came more from, oh, my gosh, I have to be present, like a necessity. I was getting really anxious about things. Now. Let me pause for a second. Anytime we’re present, we’re in the moment, we’re not thinking about the past. And we’re not moving too far in the future. When we’re thinking about the past, when we’re ruminating on that, or rehashing things, that’s when we feel things like regret, or disappointment or anger or those kinds of things for me. But when I think about the future, that’s when I start feeling things like anxious and nervous or excited. And what I was finding was that I have had some really big goals over the past like five or six years. And those goals, amazingly, were coming to fruition I was seeing them show up in my life. And so I was starting to think a lot about them. And, and, and kind of getting nervous about them. You know, anytime there’s something that we really, really want. I think when we start to see it, then there can be a time where we go. Am I supposed to have that? Like, is it? Am I worthy of that? Why did this take so long, maybe this is a mistake. I think they refer to this as imposter syndrome. But I was definitely feeling that. And ever since we got home from Arizona from our live NLP training, I’ve been feeling that sort of like not being present, being outside of myself and way too far in the future. One of the things that I always tell people inside the alchemy Institute, when they are that’s our program where we train people to be life coaches, and LP coaches hypnotherapists. And one of the things I tell them, when they say to me, I have an appointment with my first client, like I’m so nervous, I’ll always say like, then you’re thinking too much about you in it, just think about them. And for me, that takes away the nerves like automatically, I’m not anxious anymore. Because I’m, I’m focused on them and serving them instead of how I look in the situation right on if they’re going to judge me if I’m a good coach or any of that stuff. It just shifts it and moves it away. And that process has always been really easy for me. But I’m noticing that I’m doing some new things, you know,