189: Looking at your image of self.

Listen to todays episode here… Transcript: Welcome to The Art of Living big podcast. My name is Betsy Pake, and I’m an author, speaker, and a master mindset coach focused on helping you understand and design your life with the power of your subconscious. This podcast is designed to help you think differently about what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big. Hello fellow adventurers. Welcome to today’s show. I’m excited to talk to you today. Because last week, we talked about self sabotage. And I was gonna say I was surprised how many people reached out and said that that episode spoke to them so much and that they had been experiencing this. And you know, it’s only today, I guess it’s the 15th of January. So that episode came out last week. And people were saying they were already experiencing this for in the new year, right with their new goals and hopes and dreams for what could happen in 2020. And so I think that this is so common. And it makes a ton of sense. It’s, it’s how our brain works, our brains are designed to bring us back to consistency and staying in the place where we are. And by consistency, I mean, staying in that little zone of comfort, right, it likes to be consistently doing the same kinds of things, not going too far off track, you know, if you get to the edges of the thing, it’s going to start your brain is going to start to do things to alert you. And it’s designed to do that to be helpful, right. Because at one point, we needed to be really wary of anything that was new. But that’s not our reality now, and we’ve got some goals and dreams for 2020. And so as I started getting these messages, and I started thinking back to some of the things that I’ve talked about with my clients, and a reoccurring theme that comes up. So I want to dive into this, which is really like another side of the coin of self sabotage and how I see this happening. This is where a limited belief of self is causing you to choose small goals. Now you might be thinking, but I’ve chosen some really big goals, right? But I’m going to talk about this a little bit more. But I want you to notice what’s happening to you, as you’ve chosen these really big goals and how you’re feeling now, January 15. Most people get rid of their resolutions by the 14th. There’s a reason why. So let’s dive into this. And we’re going to do a little exercise here together. But here’s what I see is that some people can dream really big, some people have trouble even dreaming. But some people have the ability to dream really, really big. You know, they have really lofty goals, they start off with a bang. But as things progress, and they start to make even starts to make some headway, then it becomes really complicated. Like, things get a little confusing, or they get sidetracked. And so at first, they may have decided I’m going to go for that big goal, but all of the sudden, they go, maybe I need to do this, maybe I should just do this instead. So there’s like this rationalization that happens, right, this conversation in their head, and then that turns to a conversation with other people that maybe they’ve talked about the big goal. And they say, I’m gonna focus on the smaller goal first. So basically saying that the big goal, which is the real desire, and the real vision, this is really the thing that lights them up. They’re like MIT, that’s probably not for me or not for me right now or not for me this year, I’ll get there.