113: Holding Space For Someone

In today’s episode, I share some thoughts on how to hold space for someone and truly be a witness in their life and what they are experiencing. It can be a hard thing, to watch someone suffer, and not know what to do. It takes bravery to tell your story and compassion to simply listen and be a compassionate observer. This episode would be great for anyone going through a hard time who feels the need to say their truth out loud and for anyone who is witness suffering and feels helpless. I hope that it serves you. Transcript: Hey, before we get started on today’s show, I wanted to share with you how I’m working with my clients these days, it’s different than I used to, here’s what I found out was that all of my one on one coaching clients, we would walk through a lot of the same things. And they might hire me for seven or eight sessions. But four or five of them, I was going over a lot of what I felt was like preliminary stuff. So I decided to do my coaching a whole new way. And I created a course module for all of the things that I would normally teach and more, all the things. And now all of my coaching clients get access to all of this amazing information for seven weeks different courses every single week to help them understand their beliefs and break through those beliefs. Learn about EFT and, and other self soothing modalities, we talk about boundaries and asking better questions and learning how to say no understanding your emotions, we go through it all. And then you get the coaching. So it’s this really incredible experience now for all my coaching clients. Anyway, if that’s something that interests you, or you just want to learn a little bit more, head to my website, just go to Betsy Pake calm, you’ll see a contact me form, just fill that out, shoot me a message, and I will send you a link to my calendar and we can chat. Whether you decide to go for the coaching or not. Doesn’t matter to me. I’d really just like to connect with you if you think this is something you’d like to explore, and now on with the show. Welcome to the art of living big. I’m your host, Betsy Pake, and this podcast is designed to share interviews and new ideas to help you redefine what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big. Hey, everybody, welcome to the show today, I want to tell you a story. You know, I’ve talked recently about how my daughter has been sick. And actually I think I’ve mentioned it. Well, I mentioned it on the show back in December, I did a show on struggles. It was back like in the 70 somethings. And I shared some of the story then. But more recently, I’ve shared it more often and really pretty openly, honestly on Instagram, in my stories, and in a few posts. And I share a little bit there about what we’re going through and in how my daughter might my only child has a mental illness. Now, let me back up just a little bit. Because I want to share a little bit about this, I want to tell the story. And I think that it’s something that’s pretty powerful that I’ve experienced, that I think might help you too. So my daughter all of his 16. But really, I believe her whole life, I’ve noticed that something was just like a little bit different, not not like in a social way. Like she was never like awkward or anything like that. But more in like a resistance way is the only way I could describe it. So even when she was little, there was a lot of resistance to things that I just, I didn’t seem to notice that my friends were having trouble with their kids having resistance to this. And you know, it was small at first. And so I just figured it was maybe just a quirk and I didn’t pay a ton of attention to it. You know,