092: Self Love VS. Self Care: Mini-Edition

We hear a lot about ‘self-care’ but I believe that what we are really talking about is something totally different. In today’s episode, I talk about self-care and self-love and what I see the differences are and why they are both so important! This is something that I see most clients confused about and focused on in a way that doesn’t serve them like it could. Listen in and see if it’s a reframe that could help you feel better, live stronger and reach your goals even faster and with more joy! Transcript: Welcome to the art of living day. I’m your host, Betsy Pake. And this podcast is designed to share interviews and new ideas to help you redefine what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big. Hey, everybody, welcome to the show. All right, so this week, we have been doing mini additions. Every day, this week, there’s a mini edition, which is really a process or an idea or something that I typically share with my one on one clients. So what I find happens is that everybody’s got their own issues, right in their own circumstances. But there is typically an underlying theme, I guess, as humans, we’re also similar. And so I wanted to share some of those things that come up for my clients, in hopes that perhaps it serves you on your journey. Alright, so today, I wanted to talk about something that we hear about a lot, and I especially see it a lot on Instagram or social media. And that is self care versus self love. So we hear a lot about self care. And this, I think, can be my view of it, I think is a little different than other people. So when I see these posts on self care, I tend to find that they are focused on like, taking a nap or taking a bath or getting your nails done, or putting on a candle that’s really pretty and makes you feel good, and smells good. And all of those things. Now, I think those have total value. And I think those are self love activities, there are things that you do for yourself that make you feel loved. And those are things like if you could think of it as if you are a separate person, like if Betsy is standing over there, and I want to make her feel loved, I’m gonna make a bath for her with the most beautiful scented bubbles, and I’m gonna light a candle and I’m going to put her favorite music on. And that, to me is an act of self love. And I think that that can be so important. Especially if you’re feeling a little bit haggard or worn out, or like you’re not receiving what you need, perhaps from other people in your life. And you want to have a moment where you, you honor yourself, and you respect yourself and you give to yourself, and you treat yourself like you are something special and unique and you are loved. Because having self love and in in having that moment where you really feel like you’re worthy of more is so important. And I believe that’s something that we really miss. There are other ways to have self love. And I’ve talked before about a Louise Hay process that she has, where you simply get up every morning and you look in the mirror, and you look in your eyeballs and you say, I love you. And you do this for 100 days, this can be really uncomfortable, especially in the beginning, because you’ll notice that your little Gremlin voice comes up to tell you how you’re not really worthy of that. But if you can keep doing it, it really can be profound. And so there are different things you can do to have this self love. And I think that’s so important. But what I also want to talk about is self care. Because this can also be a part of self love. And sometimes when I hear the self care thing on like Instagram, for example, it is all the things that I really think of is self love. It’s all the things that are really things...