084: Squash Your Negative Self Talk

In today’s episode, I share why our brains tend to focus on the negative things around you… it’s actually designed to work that way for a purpose!  But I want to notice all the good, I want to let go of the cringe-worthy moments that keep coming up for me and I want to be able to choose the thoughts I have so they support my life! Today’s episode is great for anyone who tends to harp on the negative, can’t get out of their own head or has big events coming up and wants to feel in control of their emotions along the way! Thanks for listening! If you liked this episode, the greatest gift I can receive is you sharing the show with your friends! Transcript: Welcome to the art of living day. I’m your host, Betsy Pake, and this podcast is designed to share interviews and new ideas to help you redefine what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big. Hey, everybody, welcome to the show. I’m excited that you’re here. Today, we are going to be talking about something that I get asked about all the time. Like, I think every single coaching client one on one client that I’ve worked with, we’ve talked about this, I’ve talked about this, it’s one of the questions I get every single time I, I do a group coaching or anytime I speak, it’s always something that people come up and ask me about afterwards. And I know it’s because this is such an important topic. And this is such a thing that affects everybody it affects everybody affects me, it affects you, it affects your best friend. And that is how to actually squash the negative self talk. So you know, the negative self talk, it’s like you’re going through your day. And then you start like replaying a loop in your head maybe of something stupid that you did a couple days ago, or something that you’re thinking about as you’re driving to work. And all of a sudden, you realize you’re thinking about like somebody that got under your skin or something that didn’t go the way you wanted it to. And so it’s sort of a weird phenomenon, right? Like, why do we have so much negative self talk, and we know it’s not good, we, we see all of the posts on Instagram and on social media, that tell us that self love is so important. And you’re great just the way you are. And all of those things are really nice. But how do they really get us to stop that cycle of negative thinking? So I want to talk about that today. It’s funny, because as I was prepping this, and you know, I talk a lot about being aligned. And I try to do these shows based on the kinds of questions and the things that are coming up for me each week, so that you get something that I know must be resonating with you because it’s happening to me too. And I believe that we all have this connection. And it’s funny because I have a girlfriend who messaged me the other day, I had just finished a bunch of research, I like to make sure that the things that I share with you actually have a basis in science, right. So I always like to double, I double check. I fact check everything before I jump on the show. And I had done this research and written out all these notes. And then she sent me a screenshot from some book that she saw, like someone posted on Instagram. And it was the exact same research that I like, of all the research in the world, it was the exact same research. So I was like, Okay, this is really something I’m supposed to bring to you. And this is the week that I’m supposed to bring it to you. So Alright, so let’s get into it. We have in the research that we both had found was Dr. Rick Hanson, he has a TED talk. That’s really good. And that might be something that helps you. But what he actually talks about is how we have a hard bias in our...