052: Release the emergency brake in your life

Todays episode gives us a peek into making life easier! Where are you putting on the emergency break in your life?   Learn more and deep dive with us inside The Live Big Lab! Transcript: I’m teaching my teenager to drive a car. Have you ever done this? So we went to an empty parking lot near the school and I got out of the car, we switched places, and she got in the car and buckled up, we made sure that the radio was off and everything was good to go. And she pressed on the gas, and the car seemed like it was stuck, like in quicksand. And like, we kind of like lurched forward a little bit, because she pressed on the gas even harder, I couldn’t figure out what was going on. And I looked over and realized that the emergency brake was still on. And so I just told her to stop for a second and I put the emergency brake down, and then she pressed the gas and everything was so much easier. And so I started thinking about that, and in your life, where is the emergency brake on? Let’s talk about it. Hey, I’m Betsy Pake. I’m an author and a business and life strategist. But really, I feel like I work with people all over the country to help them be happier and to help them have a little more ease in their life. Today, I hope to do the same with you. Thanks for listening. Now, let’s go live big. As I talk to people all over the country, in my coaching practice, it doesn’t seem to matter. Like who I talked to, it doesn’t seem to matter if it’s a man or a woman, or what kind of job they have, or even where they grew up, or what part of the country that they that they come from. And it’s not just people that come to me looking for coaching, I mean, friends that I have people I went to school with, that I have a conversation with, or even other entrepreneurs, even other successful entrepreneurs that I talk to, when I talk to somebody, and they say that they feel stuck, or they can’t seem to reach a goal that they have. And this is the same with myself. It is always about a belief system, a belief system really can be our emergency brake, it can be the thing that is holding us back and making everything make work so much harder, it makes everything so much harder. Now, the other thing that I’ve noticed is that it doesn’t matter if we’re talking about your career, it doesn’t matter if we’re talking about a romantic relationship or something in your personal life or your health, or your finances or, or relationships with family or friends, it really doesn’t seem to matter. The belief system is always at the root of what it is that’s holding you back. So you know, when people say they’re stuck, it’s really never that they’re really stuck. It’s just that they have this thing that they believe is true. And it’s not allowing them to move forward. So identifying what belief is actually holding you back can be a tricky thing. And many times we need help to do that. That’s when coaching really comes in great. But meditation is a great way to do that. becoming very, very curious about what it is it’s holding you back and why? Here’s a question that I asked myself. When I’m bumping up against something I can’t seem to get past. I asked myself, how is this benefiting me? So maybe you are broke? Maybe you don’t have a romantic relationship and you’ve wanted one for years. Maybe you are, like dying in your career, you hate it. But you just can’t seem to figure out what else you want to do. I want you to just sit and be quiet and ask yourself, how is this benefiting me? How is being broke benefiting me? How is not having a romantic relationship? benefiting me?