027 How to create habits that serve you (and get rid of the ones that don’t!) solo round

Sometimes we think we’ve failed because we didn’t have willpower. We suffered a set back even thought we had big dreams and plans, but why?  It’s because will power doesn’t have anything to do with you hitting those goals!  There are some simple things you can put in place so that you increase your chance to making things happen and eventually…. make your actions so routine, you couldn’t imagine having it any other way.  Listen in to today’s solo round to get the run down on making and breaking the habits that support your dreams!  Join our free facebook group to learn more and get involved in the conversation at www.TheArtofLivingBig.com music by bensound. com Save Save Save Transcript: today’s podcast is brought to you by the infinite soul project where you learn how to shift your energy and manifest the change you want in your life. We’re gonna dive into your brain and the scientific reasons why you get more of what you focus on and help you consciously create some miracles for yourself. You can find out more at infinite soul project calm. Welcome to the art of living big. My name is Betsy Pake entrepreneur, author and personal success coach. This is the show that brings you stories and small ideas to help you live a big life. I hope this once a week podcast will inspire you, motivate you and encourage you to think differently about what could be possible for your life. Thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let’s go live big. Hello, Happy Monday. All right, this last week, we talked about habits. But this week, I want to talk about that motivation piece because I got a lot of messages from people. And I actually got quite a few tweets from people about being motivated, like, how do I how do I get motivated if I’m just like so not motivated? And sometimes we’ll look back on our lives. And we’ll go that was I was really motivated right then to do that thing. And why can’t I make that happened again? What is the deal. So I will tell you that motivation is really funny because people are normally either they’re either motivated by one thing or the other, they’re motivated. It’s like the carrot and the stick. So sometimes you’ll meet people and they’re like really motivated to, to save their money so that they can go on a vacation. So they’re motivated that day, they’re a salesperson, and they’re going to make a million phone calls, because they want to earn the extra commission. So they can go on vacation and impress their husband or their wife and bring their kids and life will be happy, and they’ll be good. And so that is what propels them forward. And other people, it’s running away from the stick. So I don’t want to be heavy anymore. So I’m going to start to exercise and watch what I eat. Like I’m running away from a feeling I don’t want anymore, right? So there’s one or the other. But I want you to notice the examples that I use to that those are both full of stressors. And like I’m not enough. And let me explain what I mean. So if I’m always if I’m going towards something, I’m the salesperson and I want to make a bunch of phone calls, so that I win the trip. Even if I make all those phone calls, I may still not win the trip, I may not bring my wife on a holiday and my kids might not be really like all of that might not happen. And in that process, it’s really stressful because now I have this stress of this, like dream and idea and what if it doesn’t happen, and I’ll be so let down. And on the other hand with the stick, like to be running away from something means like you’re disgusted, or you don’t like where you are, you’re unhappy.