Are pickmeishas agents of the patriarchy? + how to reset the dating market

In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of pick-me girls and their impact on the dating market. Elle, our host, shares her thoughts on how pick-me girls are actually agents of the patriarchy and how their behavior is detrimental to women. She debunks the misconceptions surrounding the patriarchy and explains how it affects everyone, not just women. While acknowledging that these are larger systemic issues beyond our control, she also provides actionable tips on how women can work within its constraints to get what they want and need out of relationships. Elle also breaks down the common misconceptions surrounding the behavior of pick-me girls in relationships, discussing how they perform for men instead of themselves and how they throw their fellow women under the bus for the attention and validation of men as a survival/coping mechanism. She goes on to explain how this behavior is actually disadvantaging women in the dating market and how women can empower themselves to break the cycle. In addition, this episode offers valuable insights and strategies for how to stop being a pick-me and reset the dating market. Elle shares tips to wake up to your worth, hold men accountable, and set barriers of access to yourself. She also advocates for women to embrace their femininity and stop being friends with men, encouraging them to focus on building genuine friendships with other women. Join us as we delve into this important topic and explore ways in which women can empower themselves to live their best lives. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more content like this! Shop the Bestie Tee - https://www.manifestelle.com/store/p/bestie-tee Chapters: 0:47 what is the patriarchy? 04:54 what is a pickmeisha? 09:05 pickmes throw their fellow women under the bus 13:42 pickmes perform for men instead of for themselves 16:22 even pickmeishas lose their own game 18:07 pickmes use “feminist” rhetoric to disadvantage women 22:43 pickmeishas don’t value women bc they don’t value themselves 24:45 how the pickmeishas hurt the women around them 31:02 how to stop being a pickmeisha 34:35 is blaming the pickmeishas in itself misogynistic 36:37 revelations about the patriarchy