How to set boundaries that stick and the brain stuff behind boundaries with Juliane Taylor Shore

How to set boundaries that stick and the brain stuff behind boundaries with Juliane Taylor Shore As always please consider following the Sidewalk Talk podcast and leaving a review.  It helps more folks find the work of Sidewalk Talk and the amazing guests we host on the podcast. Juliane Taylor Shore, LMFT, LPC, SEP, is a therapist, author, and teacher dedicated to creating spaces where people can cultivate self-compassion, self-trust, empowerment, and integrity. Juliane regularly teaches and speaks to audiences around the world, translating the latest insights in neurobiology into practical tools that foster meaningful brain change. In this conversation, Traci and Juliane dive into Juliane’s work with complex trauma and her study of neurobiology, which inspired her to write a brain-savvy book on setting boundaries. Together, they explore what’s happening in the brain during moments of connection and threat—and, most importantly, what to do about it. Pssst, this will help a ton with listening on the sidewalk. Above all, this episode offers a little love transfusion. Juliane’s excitement, compassion, and authentic humanity shine through, making her a wonderful model for all of us who strive to listen with heart—whether on the sidewalk or beyond.   Episode Timeline 00:00 Introduction to Sidewalk Talk 01:04 Meet Julianne Taylor Shore 01:46 Julianne's Unique Approach to Therapy 06:05 Understanding Boundaries 13:58 The Pleasure of Listening 24:28 Brain States and Boundaries 33:21 Exploring the Concept of Specialness 35:19 Building a Relationship with Your System 37:10 Navigating Emotions and Reactions 45:06 Self-Trust and Intuition 49:36 Interconnectedness and Boundaries 56:10 Closing Thoughts and Appreciations Resources Mentioned Setting Boundaries that Stick (Book) STAIR Training with Juliane (Training)   Standout Quotes When your brain has assessed that you're relatively okay, now connection and bonding and collaboration are physiologically available to you. (Juliane)  Boundaries are something you do in response to some limit or request not being met. And I always thought the boundary was the limit or the request. (Traci) All my boundary work actually came out of how do I help people be with this hard reality? Like, your brain sees the world differently than the person's brain next to you. Because you have different histories and different contexts and how you're making sense of all this information that's coming at you is unique to you. (Juliane) I call it listening with acceptance. And it's really, can you let yourself bear witness to someone else's thinking and feeling spaces without needing to change those internal spaces in them for you to be okay. So if I listen with acceptance, then it's cool for you to be you. I don't need you not to be you for me to be all right. And that's separate from behavior. I really want to separate that out. Not every behavior is okay. But thoughts and feelings, that's somebody becoming themselves through time. (Juliane) Connect: Find | Julian Taylor Shore At www.julianetaylorshore.com On Instagram: @JulianeTaylorShore On LinkedIn: @JulianeTaylorShore On Facebook: @JulianeTaylorShore   Find | Sidewalk Talk  At sidewalk-talk.org On Instagram: @sidewalktalkorg On Twitter: @sidewalktalkorg On Facebook: @Sidewalktalksf On LinkedIn: @SidewalkTalkOrg   Find | Traci Ruble At Traciruble.com On Instagram: @TraciRubleMFT On Twitter: @TraciRubleMFT On Facebook: @TraciRubleMFT