29: “My ex has transitioned to a woman and I worry for my children.”

“My ex transitioned to a woman 4 years ago and I am concerned about the impact this is having on my children. They meet her every week but the emphasis is always on my ex – how she is now a woman; the latest clothes she has bought and how they fit her etc etc. My children love my ex very much but I fear that they are silently confused and afraid to discuss their distress out of loyalty to their ‘Dad’. I don’t know what to do and I don’t know how to handle this.