94. Boundaries: Create Space and Time to Hit Your Goals

Recently, I was reflecting on my parenting style and how it’s evolved over time.    As much as we think we’ll parent in our own unique way once we have little ones, we often do things just like our parents.   Can you relate?   There was a time, as a new mother, when I used blame and shame just as my parents had to set boundaries with me and my siblings.   I used their approach on my own children because I had weak boundaries at that time. This approach is effective for controlling little ones, but it doesn’t produce responsible, happy children with high self-esteem.   Eventually two things happened:    I became more self-aware of my boundary setting style, and  I learned healthier boundaries.    Eventually, I replaced blame and shame with peace and confidence to set healthy boundaries.   This has made all the difference with my children, improving my relationship with each of them. It’s also helped me professionally as an executive director who was responsible for a leadership team.    If you’ve been struggling with setting clear boundaries inside your center—with other leaders, teachers, or even parents, this is the podcast episode for you.    It’s the second episode in my new B.R.I.D.G.E. series that’s all about helping you gain the critical meta-skills you need as a 21st-century school leader.    This week’s focus is on raising awareness of boundary setting styles in order to help you develop healthy boundaries within your center.   Join me for a conversation about:   How and why you need to overcome rigid black-and-white thinking The different types of boundary setting styles and why yours may not be working Trading ineffective boundary setting styles for ones that are both assertive and respectful    It’s your turn to stop setting boundaries from a place of anger, blame, excuses, or apologies and start practicing them from a place of calm, confidence, peace, and serenity.   Learn more and apply for the Director’s Inner Circle & Owner’s HQ: http://Chanie.me/jointhedic      The truth is, you’ll never fully master boundaries. No one ever does, especially because boundaries can change depending on the season of your life. But here’s the good news: Schools of Excellence can help you strengthen your boundary-setting muscles.   I invite you to take a closer look at our Owner's HQ or Director's Inner Circle programs, where you’ll connect with a welcoming community of peer school leaders who can share their real-world experience with setting boundaries in their early childcare center and so much more.   More about the show: If you are an Early Childhood director or owner, prepare to transform your school and life with the Schools of Excellence podcast. Tune in each week to learn from Chanie Wilschanski, the founder and host of the Schools of Excellence Podcast and a mom of 4 little kids. Each episode will be packed with tools and strategies – equipping you to build schools with higher staff retention, teacher motivation, parent partnership, collaborative culture, and beautiful quality of life.    Every week, Chanie shares the truth about the journey to excellence, the strategies that are working TODAY, and the