Ask Leslie About Sex

Resources:Leslie's Quick Start Guide"She Deserves Better" by Sheila Gregoire"The Great Sex Rescue" by Sheila GregoireQuestions answered in this episodeCan Women Offer Affection Without It Being Interpreted as a Sexual Invitation? Women may hesitate to show physical affection due to fear of it being seen as an invitation for sex. It’s important to communicate intentions clearly when offering hugs, kisses, or other forms of affection. An effective way to set boundaries: “I love being close to you, but I don’t always want it to lead to sex.” Men should understand that affectionate gestures are not always signals for sex; ongoing dialogue is key. Is It Wrong for a Woman to Fake Orgasms? Faking orgasms can erode trust and intimacy in a relationship. Honest communication about sexual desires and experiences is essential. If a woman is not in the mood for orgasm, she should express this openly: “I want to be close to you but don’t expect me to reach orgasm.” Focus on connection and mutual pleasure rather than performance. Are There Biblical Boundaries for Sexual Practices? Certain practices, such as extramarital sex and harmful activities, are considered off-limits. Biblical teachings emphasize respect, mutual consent, and preserving the sanctity of sexual relationships. Open dialogue about preferences and boundaries helps maintain a healthy relationship. What About Covert Forms of Marital Rape and Coercion? Covert marital rape can involve emotional or spiritual coercion, where consent is not freely given. True consent involves the ability to express desires and boundaries without fear of negative consequences. If coerced into compliance, seek professional help and support to address these issues. Is Masturbation a Concern in a Marriage? There is disagreement in the church on this topic.  Masturbation can be a natural part of sexuality and may not necessarily indicate problems in a relationship.  It’s important to discuss personal needs and expectations about masturbation within the context of the marriage. Addressing how masturbation affects the relationship openly and respectfully can lead to greater understanding and alignment. My Wife Never Liked Sex but She Married Me—What Should I Do? Feeling deceived when a partner’s sexual preferences or desires differ from expectations can be challenging. It’s important to address these concerns openly with your partner and seek to understand each other’s needs and boundaries. Consider couples counseling to explore these issues in a safe, guided environment. Building a supportive relationship where both partners feel heard and valued is crucial, even if sexual desires do not align perfectly. How Should We Handle Long-Term Relationship Repair and Growth? Long-term relationships, like homes, require regular maintenance and repair. Addressing emotional, physical, or relational damage is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship. Prioritize well-being and safety; if a partner’s behavior consistently harms the relationship, consider seeking therapy or reevaluating the relationship. Final Thoughts Marriage and intimate relationships involve navigating various challenges and dynamics. Clear communication, mutual respect, and honest dialogue are essential for a fulfilling and healthy relationship. Seek support and resources to address issues and build a stronger partnership