N4L 059: "What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew" by Dr. Sharon Saline

Dr. Sharon Saline, licensed clinical psychologist and top ADHD expert, draws on her 25 years of expertise to offer her insightful and practical book, What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew: Working Together to Empower Kids for Success in School and Life. After listening carefully to ADHD kids express emotions, successes, and motivations, Saline knows how to share proven models of strength-based parenting and attentive awareness. Full of useful exercise and easy-to-remember techniques, the book serves as a must-have handbook for anyone dealing with ADHD kids ages 6-18. 00:15 Intro to Dr. Sharon Saline, licensed clinical psychologist and ADHD expert 02:00  Why Saline chooses to give voice to ADHD kids 02:55  ADHD kids spend lots of time hearing what they’re doing wrong 03:05  Adults tend to give suggestions and interventions that don’t resonate 04:00  Saline’s goal in writing the book is to bridge the gap between adults and kids 04:30  ADHD = hyperactivity or impulsivity that interferes with executive brain functions 06:00  No. of kids vs. adults diagnosed with ADHD today 06:45  How adults deal with ADHD 07:15  ADHD kids today have parents with access to resources 07:45  Saline includes direct quotes from ADHD kids 08:30  Adults often don’t read tantrums well or correctly 09:30  Saline develops “The 5 Cs of ADHD Parenting” 10:00  5 Cs based in strength-based thinking and attentive awareness 10:30 How to develop the ability to connect more & argue less 10:50  1st C: Self-Control – parents needs to regulate/manage themselves first 11:30  Breathing techniques (belly, alternative nostril, etc.) 11:55  The “Bathroom Technique” 12:30  2nd C: Compassion – both for yourself and your child 13:10  3rd C: Collaboration – adult & child create plan based on real incentives 14:00         Only try to change one thing at a time 14:50  4th C: Consistency – mean what you say and follow through 15:30  “Efforting” vs. achieving – keep trying! 16:05  5th C: Celebration – notice efforts and progress (give praise) 17:00  Positivity ratio should be between 3-5 to 1 17:30  Countering negativity by verbally observing positive behavior 18:00  Combined, the 5Cs = “secret sauce for success” 18:15  The toughest “C” for parents 19:40  “Medicine can help, but pills don’t teach skills.” 20:00  Skills need to be taught directly; medicine can help prepare brain for learning 20:40  ADHD kids have frontal lobes that mature up to three years behind the norm 21:30  The brain’s executive functions may not be fully developed until age 28 22:35  Book’s hopeful message is that ADHD kids are trying hard to do well 23:25  One sad constant among ADHD kids: shame (feeling different) 23:55  Medication facilitates connection between neurons to make learning skills easier 25:25  ADHD exterior often masks interior feelings 26:50  “Accepting the ADHD Brain You Have” 27:15  Clients name their brains and what they really like about them 28:15 Parents and kids to work together to make positive things “bigger” 29:00  Debunking myth that everyone else has no challenges 30:00  ADHD kids want their parents to “be real” 30:15 How to form an alliance with ADHD kids 31:50  Addressing the homework hurdle 32:30  School usually hardest area of functioning for ADHD kids, especially writing 33:00  Timing medication is critical to having success with homework assignments 35:00  Developing a homework routine with your ADHD child 36:30  Using quick fixes vs. developing a big plan to “walk through the valley” Recommendation: Hoopla Digital to access 8 free books/month (without a wait!) BUY What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew: Working Together to Empower Kids for Success in School and Life For more information about dealing with ADHD, go to Dr. Saline's website. For 8 free e-downloads/month, check out Hoopla Digital. Connect with Nonfiction4Life! Facebook Instagram Twitter YouTube  Website Special thanks… Music Credit Sound Editing Credit