How To Fight Well

Most people never consider that fighting can be a useful and healthy practice for our relationships — and that “fighting well” is a skill that can be learned. We resist conflict until it builds up and we reach a breaking point, and then BAM! Our trauma runs the show and we risk re-traumatizing ourselves and others.  In this episode, Joe and Brett talk about how to fight well. They explore how:  • Healthy fighting can actually lead to healing, growth, and deeper connection • The importance of speaking your truth • What to NOT do during fights • The empowerment of a good fight • When to walk away (and how) • When a fight is no longer worth fighting Chapters 00:00 - Introduction to Relationships and Fighting 03:00 - The Journey of Fighting Well 05:51 - Understanding Healthy Conflict 09:02 - Navigating Trauma in Relationships 12:03 - The Role of Window of Tolerance 14:57 - The Dynamics of Emotional and Logical Partners 17:53 - The Importance of Speaking Your Truth 20:54 - Recognizing Apathy in Relationships 24:01 - The Gift of Conflict in Relationships 27:02 - The Nature of Truth in Perspectives 29:52 - Final Thoughts on Fighting and Love