Four Lessons to Greater Marriage // Relationship Goals (Part 3)

Pastor Vlad shared a message about lessons to happy marriage. Message Notes: Ephesians 5:22, 25, 33 Mans primary needs: honor and respect, sex, shared activity and support at home Woman's primary need: security, non sexual affection, honest communication and leadership  1. Marriage is like triangle! The closer both people get to God they closer they come to each other.  - Commitment to God must be stronger than commitment to each other. - Don’t let passive spouse hinder your passion for God - Don’t nag, push, blame or preach to a passive spouse (1 Pet.3:1-2)  - Your spouse is like a tree, it will not grow when you pull it. Water it instead and be patient. - God did not call you to change your spouse but to love them.  2. Catch the foxes! Before you win in marriage, marriage has to win in your mind. Song of Solomon 2:15 - Little foxes are thoughts like “I have made a mistake”, “I should of married someone else”, “I am miserable” “I have to leave before it’s too late”.  - Don’t vocalize demonic thoughts or they will take root in your mind.  - Burn the bridge to your ex and the past.  - Remove the word “divorce” from your vocabulary during difficult time in your marriage.  3. Choose to cheat! Don’t cheat on your marriage with work and hobbies. Matthew 15:5-6 - Don’t give to God what belongs to your family “You love your family in your heart, but you don't love them in your schedule. And they can't see your heart. Nobody gets to the end of his life and wishes he had spent more time at the office.” Andy Stanley  "Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them - work, family, health, friends and spirit - and you're keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls - family, health, friends and spirit - are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.” Bryan Dyson “I will never get finished everything I need to get done today. I will always miss something everyday. Never let it be the same thing twice. Touch everything but hold nothing to long. If you have to hold it to have it, you’re not hiring the right people.” TD Jakes  “A person who stays late at the office is not a hardworking person, instead he is a fool who does not know how to manage work within stipulated time. He is inefficient and incompetent in his work.” Dr Abdul Kalam  Practical tips:  - Spend 15 minutes a day in a meaningful conversion.  - Spend 1 evening a week on a date. - Go on a 7 day vacation once a year.  4. Fight like Pro! Marriage is either a street fight with no rules or a fight like a boxer in the ring. Ephesians 5:26-27 - Don’t go to sleep angry, stay up and fight!  - Complain instead criticizing. Complaining is how I feel, criticism is attack the other person. - Avoid bringing the past into the present.  - Avoid using words “NEVER” and “ALWAYS” or cursing.  - Raising your voice or hands is not good. How to fight like a pro? - Non sexual physical touch  - Sarcasm is a big no.  - Validate her feelings, don’t shame her for them.  - Acknowledge your fault.  - Promise to do better. Stay connected with Pastor Vlad Instagram http://www.instagram.com/vladhungrygen Facebook http://www.facebook.com/vladhungrygen Twitter http://www.twitter.com/vladhungrygen