I Can't Believe You Just Said That :: Ginger Hubbard [EP8]

When a child disobeys, our natural reaction is typically to discipline them with consequences. It’s probably how we were raised and seems like the best way to parent. We raise our voices, threaten and/or coerce, but still find ourselves frustrated? But what if we took a different approach. My guest Ginger Hubbard has some hope-filled news for us. In her new book, I Can’t Believe You Just Said That, she provides a three-step plan to reach beyond the behaviors of tongue-related struggles such as lying, tattling and whining. We can look at our child’s behavior and identify a heart attitude that needs training. We can try to reach the heart and figure out what’s going on in the heart by asking heart probing questions. What if we can help them evaluate not just how they are acting, but what is going on in the heart that is motivating them to disobey.“It’s never enough to just verbally instruct our kid in what not to do, we always need to instruct them in what to do”.Ginger Hubbard shares many different examples of heart issues from her new book, I can’t Believe You Just said That. For example, Ginger shares that whining has become an epidemic and that so many kids whine as a means of communicating. “What we don’t want to do is just administer consequences that’s not effective, that’s not teaching them to replace what is wrong to be right… and that’s not training them in righteousness”.What we chat about:How to handle issues like whining, disobedience and lyingHow to reach a child’s heartWhy is it important to ask heart probing questionsHow can we set aside ineffective practices such as scolding and administering punishmentCONNECT WITH GINGERWEBSITE: Ginger HubbardINSTAGRAM: @gingerhubbardFACEBOOK: Ginger HubbardBOOK MENTIONEDI Can't Believe You Just Said ThatDon't Make Me Count to Three