How Will I Know When Enough Is Enough and I Can Walk Away? [158]

“He doesn’t even have to be kind. I just wish he wouldn’t make every waking moment a nightmare. What else can I do?” she said into the phone. “I don’t know,” her sister said. “You’ve done counseling. And prayed. Asked pastors for help. Read books. Been quiet. Spoken up. Given more sex. You’ve borne the consequences of all his poor choices. You’ve pushed your health to the brink to serve him. For years.” “But I haven’t fasted and prayed for a straight month,” she murmured. “THIS IS INSANE. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS BEHAVIOR!” her sister exploded. “Yes,” she said. It finally clicked. And in that moment, she knew. “I have to separate.” It was her “enough” moment. And she never looked back. A summary form of my two cents: - There’s no right or wrong answer (but lots of valuable advice; I put my money where my mouth is) - Important factors that play into calculating this decision (no math needed, phew!) - The one person who needs to sign this check (Hint: It ain’t your pastor or mother-in-law or dad or boss or a celebrity or Magic 8-ball or even, gasp, God) - The stinky visitor living rent-free in your brain (May I suggest an eviction notice?) Listen or download the transcript at flyingfreenow.com/158 FREE: I'll send you the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Just hop on my mailing list at flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download. (I will NEVER spam you or sell your information.) Desperate for real help and safe people who understand what you're going through? Find out about my online education and support program for women of faith at joinflyingfree.com And, if you are an already divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, have amazing relationships, build a business or career, or even find a good man - check out joinflyinghigher.com