#9: How 15 Minutes Can Change Your Marriage

Have you and your spouse ever felt like you might be "missing" one another? Like there's something deeper going on between the two of you, yet you just can't put your finger on it? Then, all of a sudden--and often out of nowhere--it rears its ugly head.

Research shows the most effective and balanced leaders are able to engage both sides of their brain in conversation. I realized that when I process my day with Christi, it is usually content based (i.e. what I did, who I talked to, etc.) rather than process based (i.e. what I felt about what I did or who I talked to).

Translation: I needed to be more in touch with my feelings.

I remember coming home from work one day telling Christi about my day—who I talked to, what I did, and quite a bit about the projects I had cooking. Visibly irritated, and nearly in tears, Christi looked at me and was—well, painfully honest.

“Why don’t you ask about me? I feel like it’s always about you. You never ask about what’s on my heart.” That was a wake up call for me. From that moment, we decided to implement a practice into our marriage that has helped us make sure we wouldn't "miss" one another as much.

In this episode, we talk about this practice. And the beauty of it, is that it only takes about 15 minutes. Not only do we describe what we do, we talk about the "why" and "how" behind it.

This is our plan. We hope each of you will practice it with us.