Ep. 202: How Low Demand Parenting Can Reduce Stress and Support Neurodivergent Youth with Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge

Parenting is filled with moments of stress and overwhelm, especially when raising children with different neurological wiring. Many of us have faced times when our child’s behavior feels too much to handle, leaving us unsure of what to do next. That’s where today’s guest, Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, comes in. Dr. Roseann is a trailblazer in mental health, media figure, and the founder of Neurotastic™ Brain Formulas and The Global Institute of Children’s Mental Health. She is on a mission to “Change the way we view and treat children’s mental health and is known for her teachings on promoting brain calmness using science-driven solutions. She is also the host of the It’s Gonna Be OK podcast, a go-to resource for parents navigating their children’s mental health challenges. In our conversation today, she introduces us to the concept of low-demand parenting, a style that has emerged alongside the increasing recognition of neurodivergent youth. Throughout the episode, Dr. Roseann explains how this approach can help parents reduce their own stress by lowering demands on both themselves and their children. This, in turn, allows kids with dysregulated nervous systems to feel more secure and capable of learning critical skills like flexibility and problem-solving. We’ll discuss how low-demand parenting can reduce anxiety in children, how to implement co-regulation techniques, and the benefits of self-regulation in creating a happier, healthier home environment. Show Notes: [2:47] - Neurodivergence and brains that are wired differently are on the rise. [3:27] - Low-demand parenting is a style of parenting that has come with the rise of kids who are uniquely wired. It’s a misunderstood style of parenting. [5:11] - When kids have dysregulated nervous systems, no matter where it's coming from, they’re going to fall back on familiar behaviors. [6:47] - We need to teach kids flexibility, coping skills, and problem solving. That is a lot harder when you’re coming in hot. [8:15] - This style of parenting can be started at any time. But you may get some pushback. [9:34] - One of the benefits of low demand parenting is reducing anxiety. [10:53] - We don’t really think about our kids having activations in their nervous systems. [12:23] - This type of parenting is really helpful particularly in current times and with current generations, but specifically with neurodivergent youth. [13:35] - Self-regulation is key to leading a happy life. [14:54] - We learn our parenting from our own parents and the strategies are not always helpful. [16:32] - When you’re overwhelmed, everything feels like a mountain. The one action you can start with is co-regulation. [18:51] - Dr. Roseann gives some starting points in learning co-regulation. [21:19] - The hardest part is reinforcement. It’s not going to stick with just one time. [23:13] - A common misconception is that children are trying to overwhelm us on purpose. We can guide them to healthy ways to manage discomfort. [24:39] - The most common reason people leave college is due to their mental health. [26:58] - Give the other parent or caretaker the information as well. [28:42] - The more you are regulated, the more regulated your child will be. Dysregulation can negatively impact the parent-child relationship. [30:50] - Being regulated doesn’t mean you don’t feel stress. It means that you are activated by it. About Our Guest: Dr. Roseann stands as a mental health pioneer, media persona, and the architect of The Global Institute of Children’s Mental Health, Neurotastic™ Brain Formulas and Dr. Roseann, LLC. She's committed to altering mental health perceptions and interventions, offering a message of hope through science-endorsed methods that promote a calm brain. Her BrainBehaviorReset® Program and It’s Gonna be OK!™ Podcast has been a cornerstone for thousands facing daunting challenges such as PANS/PANDAS, OCD, anxiety, and ADHD/executive functioning, significantly bettering the lives of children and families. Connect with Dr. Capanna-Hodge: YouTube Instagram Facebook Group TikTok Website It’s Gonna Be OK! Podcast Links and Related Resources: Coping Skills Download Episode 184: Could Pathological Demand Avoidance Clarify My Child’s Challenges with Dr. Casey Ehrlich Connect with Us: Get on our Email List Book a Consultation Get Support and Connect with a ChildNEXUS Provider Register for Our Self-Paced Mini Courses with LIVE AMA Sessions The Diverse Thinking Different Learning podcast is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical or legal advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed by the host and guests are not considered treatment and do not necessarily reflect those of ChildNEXUS, Inc or the host, Dr. Karen Wilson.