20: Robyn Warner - Prepared Not Scared

Episode 20: Robyn Warner - Prepared Not Scared   In this episode, I’m chatting with Robyn Warner, a mother to four young children, a serial entrepreneur running several businesses, & the creator of the online course SAFE where she shares her biggest passion of empowering, protecting, and educating women & girls on safety and self-defense. After being brutally sexually assaulted at 18 years old while running alone, Robyn now works to help all women feel PREPARED not scared through her online safety course and advocacy work, which we’re diving into in this episode!   [2:10] How Robyn brings a unique sense of humor and lightness to this very important and heavy topic [3:43] Why so many cases of sexual assault go unreported & why the number of “close calls” are even higher [5:08] Why preparedness brings feelings of bravery and courage, NOT fear [8:00] Robyn’s personal story of running alone at 18 years old in college & the things that saved her life [14:00] Why you should YELL your name, location, & what’s happening to you in the event of an attack [21:33] How this event dramatically changed Robyn’s life & the shame she felt [23:07] Why this traumatic event empowered Robyn to learn about self-defense & the healing she found in teaching other people how to keep themselves safe [24:38] How Robyn started to heal  [26:05] How the brain’s protective response is to shame and guilt so a similar event won’t happen again [28:28] How fighting back OR not fighting back may be the best option in specific scenarios [30:01] What the difference is between fighting back versus trying to get away (and why women get more hurt when trying to get away & why we SHOULD be fighting back) [32:50] Why giving PERMISSION to young girls and women to fight back when being attacked is important [34:45] Why having these talks with your kids can REDUCE anxiety rather than increase it like many parents worry [35:29] Robyn teaches parents not to teach their kids about “stranger danger" but “tricky people” instead, because so many sexual assaults happen from people your kids know like neighbors, friends, relatives, etc. [36:48] Teaching our kids that it doesn’t matter WHO the “tricky person” is and providing a safe place for your kids to come and tell you when or if something happens [37:57] How to define “tricky people” to your children starting at 3 years old  [39:15] WHAT you need to YELL [41:05] How to PRACTICE with your kids so they’re prepared in the case of an event or attack & how this will start to EMPOWER THEM [42:13] Why it’s even normal for adults to FREEZE & how to PRACTICE as an adult too  [43:04] How self-defense has evolved & the ONE thing you can do that can stop many attacks before they even happen  [47:53] Why we ALL need to learn to NOT ignore our gut instinct when something feels off or not right  [49:29] Why you’re never going to get rid of FEAR & why you don’t want to  [50:25] How to not let traumatic events DEFINE you  [54:03] All about Robyn’s ONLINE course “SAFE (self defense, awareness, fighting techniques, and empowerment)” with over 5 hours & 18 short videos of Robyn talking about topics covering phone safety, kid safety, how to leave a babysitter safely, hiking safety, car safety, dealing with anxiety, etc.  Use Code: “FREEDOM” to get $25 OFF Robyn’s Course SAFE, exclusively for Bio Emotional Healing® Podcast listeners   “You are not what happens to you, you are who you choose to become” -Ashleigh Di Lello JOIN MY FREE MONTHLY COACHING CALL “Ask Ashleigh” → https://ashleighdilello.com/askashleigh/