How To Have A Thriving Relationship with a 6 | Ep. 390

We are continuing our Enneagram Series with Beth McCord talking about How to Have A Thriving Relationship with an Enneagram 6. For the next several weeks Beth will be breaking down some real, practical tips for being married to each Enneagram number.    If you are married to a 6 this is YOUR episode. But even if you aren’t married to a 6, we know you will find this episode helpful in learning more about your 6 friends. Part of loving people is knowing people. So use this series as a tool to know your people better, understand them deeper, and love them better.    Beth McCord founded ‘Your Enneagram Coach’ and has been an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher for over 17 years. She is seriously the best of the best so we are so blessed to have her share her time and expertise with us.    Having been trained by the best Enneagram experts and pouring hundreds of hours into advanced certifications, Beth is leading the industry in simplifying the deep truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. Beth does one-on-one coaching, in-person events and workshops and online courses. She also offers training and support for those interested in becoming an Enneagram coach. So make sure you give her a follow on Instagram @yourennegramcoach and check out her website yourennegramcoach.com for more great info.    We pray you enjoy learning more about 6s in this episode!  Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox!    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “Type 6s are reliable, hardworking, dutiful, and very steady people to be around.” - Beth McCord “Type 6s can foresee problems that might be coming and they’re fiercely loyal to those that they love.” - Beth McCord “Type 6s do really well with groups; they want the best for everyone.” - Beth McCord “The core fear of a Type 6 is fear itself, being without support or security.” - Beth McCord “Type 6s core weakness is anxiety.” - Beth McCord “Type 6s are constantly scanning the horizon of life trying to predict and prevent negative outcomes, especially worst case scenarios.” - Beth McCord “Type 6s can stay in a constant state of apprehension and worry.” - Beth McCord “Type 6s don’t have an inner critic, they have an inner committee that is constantly telling them all the outcomes to a situation.” - Beth McCord “The core longing of a Type 6 is to hear ‘You are safe and secure.’” - Beth McCord “There’s a wide range of different types of Type 6s, it’s a complex personality type.” - Beth McCord “Type 6s have so much good discernment, they just don’t trust it.” - Beth McCord “A healthy Type 6 has an amazing sense of humor, is witty, and engages in great conversations.” - Beth McCord “When a Type 6 is struggling they can be over-reactive, anxious, skeptical, and suspicious.” - Beth McCord “Have patience and kindness when communicating with a Type 6 and strive for clarity.” - Beth McCord “Know when you’re communicating with a Type 6 the more ambiguous and unclear you are the more they fear that something bad is happening.” - Beth McCord “Type 6s are always thinking; their mind does not stop.” - Beth McCord “Type 6s need time to process and seek advice before making a decision so it can be difficult to put a Type 6 under pressure.” - Beth McCord “If a Type 6 sees someone not being genuine or honest, that can really set them off.” - Beth McCord “Type 6s can smell someone who is fake from a mile away.” - Beth McCord “Being lied to or the possibility of being abandoned will set a Type 6 off.” - Beth McCord “Type 6s are immediately going to think of the worst case scenario.” - Beth McCord “If you’re in a relationship with a Type 6, try to realize that they could spin out at any moment at any time from anything, so the more clarity you can bring to a situation, the better.” - Beth McCord “Knowing your personality type and knowing how you best can bring clarity to a conflict situation with a Type 6 is super helpful.” - Beth McCord “Listen to your Type 6; don’t judge them for their anxiety and fears.” - Beth McCord “Type 6s want to know that their spouse is a safe place for them to share their inner fears and anxieties without being judged.” - Beth McCord “Type 6s are the glue of society; they are loyal, committed, and keep us together.” - Beth McCord   SPONSORS   Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! 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